Lets go back in that time.....

I am Prabhash, 22 years old, a so called software engineer, living in one of the most happening cities of India, Pune, doing all those things which as a kid I used to dream about (no restrictions, hanging out with friends, night outs, parties for no reason and the list goes on....).
As I will be turning one year older (or should i say mature) today, I look back how i have spent these 23 years. Though its very difficult for anyone to decide what were the days you have enjoyed most in your life, one thing which I am very sure about is that no one forgets childhood days. My childhood days were the most interesting ones. Interesting, may be because i didnt even know what else was there which could entertain me, you see, I had a very little world, I knew very few people, they all were always around me and I loved it.

Whenever i think about the past, i am stuck at those times....I feel nostalgic. You wanna know what all things i remember from those days, here are some points..... may be you too will relate yourself with these things...

I did'nt live in some society and big apartments. But i remember my mohalla and calling mohalla walas as "mooch wale uncle" "upar wali aunty" ... "mannu didi" ... "Binno bhaiyya"....

I remember "bagal wale bhaiya" taking all little kids of mohalla to school. We all had to depend on him to take us safely to the school.

I remember playing games like Chhupan Chhupaai, Pakdam Pakdaai, unch-neech ,beech ka bichhoo, Chain-chain, pitthoo-phod , "Posham pa bhai posham pa, lal quile mein kya hua?...", ludo, saanp-seedhi, patte-pe-patta, 3-2-5, rummy".....

I remember the shows aired on DD1, Ham log, shanti, fauji, Byomkesh Bakhshi, The Jungle book, Swabhiman, Tehkikaat, The Reporter, Rangoli, Chitrahaar, Alif Laila....
And then i grew up a little, i remember calling off all games for Shaktiman, Captain Vyom, Chandrakanta ( Naugarh vijaygarh mein thi takrar, naugarh ka tha jo rajkumar, chandrakanta se karta tha pyar...).

I remember that "Pratap Inter College" ka field, where we used to play cricket. My few sixes had broken window glasses of some class-rooms. :)

I remember roads being deserted when it was time for Mahabhaaaarat, Ramayana.... No one could miss it. We too were told to watch all those mythical shows by our grandparents.

Ohhhhh, I remember my favourites..... " jumgle jungle baat chali hai pata chala hai, chaddi pahan ke fool khila hai phool khila hai", " gucche hain bhai gucche hain kahanio ke gucche hain, kahani lelo...", "Duck Tales, Oooo- Oooo"...

I remember people gathering in our room to watch TV shows, as we were first ones in the mohalla to have a TV. Having a TV that time was a luxury.

Ohhhh, talking about luxury items.... I remember telephone also. There was these long queues at the local STD-PCO after 9:00 .

I remember some shows of DD2, the Superhit Muqabla, the Rangoli, the Chitrahaar, the non-stop 24 hour channel, movies, the Regional language films, the late night English flicks from the 70s, the NFDC art films!

I remember jingles like : Munna, zara paas ki dukaan se namak toh le aa, Washing Powder Nirma ... , Lifebuoy hai jahan ... , Humaara Bajaj ... , Vicco Turmeric nahin Cosmetic ... , Babool babool paise wasool ... , Dhoondte reh jaaoge ... , Melody khaao khud jaan jaao ... , Coffee or toffee ... , Maggi hot and sweet tomato "chilli" sauce, its different ... , Asli masaale sach sach ... , Liril girls ... , Lux adverts ... , Haan bhai haan, Coldarin li? ... , Saatth saal ke boodhe ya saatth saal ke jawaan? ... , Raju tumhaare daant toh motiyon jaise chamak rahe hain ... , Bhala usski saaree meree saree se safed kaise? ... ,

I remember reading comics like Chacha Chaudhary, Billoo, Pinky. And yeah.... my favorite super commando dhruv, nagraj, parmanu.....and cant forget DOGA (jab sari duniya soti hai to doga jagta hai). I still read bankelal though :)

I remember The Cricket World cup of 1996, the Eden Gardens burning, Kambli crying ...

I remember Garmiyon ki chuttiyan!!! gaon ki trip (bus mein vo 4 ghante ka safar, hahaha!), last week mein holiday homework!

I remember gully cricket in the muhalla. Fighting for batting, and then howling when getting out ... and then when all else failed ... threatening to go away 'coz the bat was mine :)

I remember how much we enjoyed spreading rumours (some of them were not rumours though) of love affairs between the same didis and bhaiyyas of the mohalla.

I remember fighting over small things with my mohalla wala dost and saying things like...
a) haan be! lag gayi beta..... aa gaya mazaa?
b) haan saale, mat maan..... baad mein mat bolna maine bataya ni tha..
c) abe dekh ya to tu uske saath khel ya mere saath... :)
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I know i have missed out a lot of things.... . If there is ANYTHING you feel I should have mentioned ... continue the list on the comments!!!!

Waterfall Rappelling- A Real Adventure

For a long time, adventure was always in my mind. Being a software engineer, I find google as a solution to everything. While googling for adventure sports near pune, i came to visit this site http://www.travelarks.com/. After spending a some time in site navigation, i finally found what i was looking for. Having done so many trekkings and river rafting in the past, this time i was looking for something different. And here it was ..... Waterfall Rapelling scheduled on 30th Aug. As i had few days left and there was a limit on the group size, i immediately called them and got myself and my roommate registered for the event.

Though we could join them on 30th in karjat, we opted for a bullet ride a day before the event to go there and stay in some village. We started at 5 p.m. from pune with our bags packed. After some time, it started raining heavily.By the time we reached khandala, we were all wet and i was shivering. We stopped at a stall and had 2 cups of tea each. It gave us the warmth we needed and we begun to move again. We reached karjat at 8:30. Karjat is a very small town, smaller than i thought. We even had a difficult time finding an ATM :), as 4 out of 5 guys didnt even know an ATM existed there. We moved from karjat to a village 'baidyanath' which was about 10 Km from karjat and stayed there in the night.

Next day we woke up very early in the morning and explored the nearby area. We joined the team at merud, 13 km from karjat at 8.30 A.M. The group consisted of people from different sectors, mostly from IT, journalism, media, graphics and even management too. It was nice to see the hunger for adventure in so many people.
In the introduction session, we came to know that organizing team too worked in different companies and they do it only on weekends. It felt great to see these guys doing what they really want or you can say in pursuit of finding little happiness in life.

As we all started to move to waterfall, it begun to rain. The path was very narrow at some places and slippery too. We were moving slowly to avoid any accident. Finally when we reached near waterfall, some instructions and a demo was given to us. It seemed simple :). All we had to do was to keep our knees straight, look above, keep 90 degree angle between upper and lower half of the body, changing our direction from one hand and loosen rope from the other. Simple, isnt it??And harness, belts , helmet, guides etc were all there for our safety. So lets do it. Me and my roommate were enthusiastic enough to try it out first. As only one person could rappell down at one time, my roommate Anand did it first. He did it pretty confidently and did not fall even once. It took him just 4-5 mins to rapple down the waterfall.


I was going to be the second one but as i was waiting for Anand to come back and take my snaps while rappelling, i had to go third. So looking at Anand's experience, i was even more confident that it would go easy. Meanwhile they had prepared me to go and rapple down. As i started and got there in the flowing water, i begun to feel the force of the water. I bent down backwards a little, holding the rope for direction from my left hand. For the first 3-4 feet, i was doing fine. Slowly moving my feet down, loosening the rope and all this time keeping knees straight was all i had to do. Suddenly, i slipped and in a few seconds, i was parallel to the waterfall. I looked above, tried to lift my foot , push me back and then got my second foot at the right place. Ok, it was'nt good but everyone falls for the first time:).

Anyways, after moving down a little more, i slipped again, and this time i hit the rocks harder. The water force also was more as i had descended a few more foot. I tried this time also and finally after some time got myself balanced. This time, i decided that i woudnt take it easy and will not fall again.I knew how much to move my feet and how thight to hold the rope and how much to bend. I thought i will move down rest half very safely without any problem. But hey, the next second i moved my foot, i didnt find anything to place it on. As it was white water, u cant see beyond it. You just have to assume there should be something beneath this water to rest your foot on. I tried to change the direction to find something, but a little movement in the rope for the direction takes you to the right/left by a larger distance. So now, i was in the middle of the waterfall, parellel to it and unable to move. The force of water was so much at this point that i was unable to life my feet against it. The harness was so tight on waist that i coudnt move. I stayed like it for abt 30 seconds. The organising team was saying something, but i couldnt hear it. I could only see their lips moving. At that time, i just wanted to get down.I looked at them in the hope that they would understand it and let me get down without rapelling.

But then i realized that the only way to get to the bottom of the waterfall was to rapple down. As i had to do it anyway, i loosened my rope again and let me bend till i was at 90 degrees to the rocks. After that i didnt do any mistake, as i knew next time i woudnt be able to take it:). Finally i had done it.
Then we enjoyed a lot in the water. All day it was raining again and again. We had our lunch and then waited for others to complete their rapelling. Others were engaged in talks and getting to know each other stuff. Finally, we moved from there at 6 :30 p.m.

It was great fun and a real adventure. It is always exhilareting for me seeing the nature so close, big mountains , waterfalls, so much green around me and a grin on my face. Truth is, God has put it everywhere around you. You need to have that sense of feeling to understand the existence of it.
Finally, we had to go back. We headed back to pune at around 10 P.M. Reached here, where I started from, where I belong , back home and there it is, the same old complexity of life around me again.

There is a pleasure in the pathless woods; There is a rapture on the lonely shore; There is society, where none intrudes, By the deep sea, and music in its roar;
A Nature lover !!An aesthetic voyager whose home is the road !!
It should not be denied that being footloose has always exhilarated us. It is associated in our minds with escape from history and oppression and law and irksome obligations. I want Absolute freedom ----(Christopher McCandless)

Those were the best days of my life.....

We all remember our college days. Usually those are the best days of everyone's life. Life was so unpredictable there. Bunking classes, proxies, collecting photo copies of notes a day before exams, night outs, copying in exams ....and the list goes on. We all miss these things. There is so much to tell about your college days and none of us has forgotten even a single day. Many of us have already begun to write about those golden days, and they are covering every little detail in a very nice way. Hats off to you guys :).

A picture is worth thousand words.... so i will try to cover those four years through pictures...

The first few days in college, we all were dressed in white shirts with third button red, black plated pants, without belts, white socks, and white PT shoes. We all looked funny. We had to bow down everytime we saw a senior in order to give him respect. It was known a "ninety". We had to keep our eyes down while talking to the seniors.
And yeah, this was not ragging. It was PDP (personality development program). Some of us enjoyed it, some of us cursed it, but looking at it now, we all know it laid the foundation of an ever lasting relationship with our seniors who guided and helped us whenever we needed.

No matter how soon we wanted to get rid of that Naini Jail, and what hangama we had done in admin office when we heard that we had to stay one more year in naini, we all still miss those days as the best days of all four year's hostel life. No restrictions, no one to watch us, no one to tell what to do and what not to do. We were there all by ourselves. The most interesting part was, if we miss the bus in the morning, we had to go to college (NSC in first year) by auto and it used to take an hour. So much pain just to sleep in the claases. So most of the times we opted to stay in the hostel. How that one year passed, we had no idea. There was nothing to do in naini, it was a deserted area, we cursed it for one year, but at the time of leaving we realized this is what had brought all of us this close. We would'nt have been this close, had we got all the facilities right from the first year. We all would have been busy playing games, surfing net etc.

Then came our freshers party. Our seniors had organized a grand party. Look at our innocent faces, :) just out of the school, having the first party in college. We really enjoyed this party a lot. Some of us showed their talents also. That time only we came to know some of us have some talents also :). Seniors gave us their names (It may sound funny, but by that time we really didnt know even the names of seniors), their phone numbers, room number and said that we can come to them for any help. And yes, they did help us a lot.

Ohh my gosch!!!! The semester exams. 80% students like me didnt even know the syllabus one day before the exam. Rest 19% did know the syllabus and had arranged for the notes. (ohh sorry, photocopy of the notes). Only 1%, may be less, had their own notes. We used to run from one room to another just to find out if someone knows what to read and from where. Then the great Jagga always proved to be a saviour. He used to take classes of whatever he had read. Thanks a lot jagga, we all are here only because of you.

This was the day when i started drinking. We had asked our senior ( he is more like a friend) Rajan Sir, to give us treat for his placement. He told us, treat means drinking. So either we had to drink or no treat at all. So we opted for drinking :). And yeah it was great fun. I dont exactly remember what i drank that night, most probably it was just beer. How i continued after that, all of you know :).

And there we were after drinking and full tally. On the roof of CC1, i donno what we were doing at 2-3 A.M. As far as i can remember we were dancing for some time. Then we kept lying there for a long time, singing songs, cracking jokes, laughing loudly and may be planning for future. All i can recall now is that it was 4 in the morning when we were heading back to hostel. It was a total fun. Thanks a lot for that day Rajan Sir.

So we too gave a legendary farewell party to our seniors. Ohh my god, that was hell of a party. We had arranged a dance group also, u remember that guys?? Good, if you dont. So we had many events also, apart from that dance grp, but i remember only one, the paper dance. We asked our seniors to dance with any gal of their and then our batch. I dont remember exactly ( I had begun to drink), please correct me if i m wrong. We all danced like no one was watching :).

Then it was time when we all were preparing for place- ments. We used to wake up all night studying. That was the only time in four years when were actually reading. And, if you wake up all night, then you need something to keep you awake. Thats where the contribution of daddu comes in. We used to go to his stall at 4 A.M. Getting samosa-chola, bun-butter, and chai at that time was all you needed. We used to go there almost everyday in spite of the cold in winters, but it was worth it. We discussed anything and everything, from movies to sports to international issues etc while going there and coming back from there.

So the day finally came, when we all were placed in some or the other company. To celebrate this, we could not think of any other place than "Glassy". Glassy in civil lines was the only classy place. That had become the private bar of B2K4. We played the songs we liked, we danced ..... glassy guys had begun to know us from our faces. We were their regular customers. We had countless parties there. Glassy adds a very valuable contribution to the classy b2k4 days. Is'nt it guys???

Hey guys, you remember that "paani ki tanki" in our hostel roof. That was one of our "drinking places". Sneaking to the roof through broken window, wow. If you needed privacy while drinking, you go there and turn your cell phones off. Because you cant stop others to come into your room, in CC or whatever. This was the place. I miss that "paani ki tanki" too, dont you?

Rock On dudes!!!!!!! Head banging was all we needed. When I was in school, i had never heard Rock. That must have been the case with most of you guys also. But by last year of our college, we all were very well known head bangers... sounds cool hmmm. Metallica, Led Jeppling, Linkin Park....... they are were in our heart and soul. Music is something which binds us all together. And, we all loved it.

A post about or college days can not be complete without this party. Cisco had offered jobs to 14 guys of our batch. It was huge. So there had to be grand party. Where??? What could be the best place for such a great occasion?? Yeah... it was the great pandey's home. I couldnt believe the arrangement he had at his home. Countless beers, Whisky, Scotch, Vodka....everything was there. The best part, we were getting 'garma-garam' pakodas for snacks. That night was one of the gretest nights of four years. Many of us started drinking that day only :).
Thanks Pandey.....

We cant forget that Naini Bridge. That was one of the best places in Allahabad. We could walk there for hours. There was a famous "Chaat -wala" in the start of the bridge. But nothing beats the beauty of Naini Bridge in the night. Standing there on the bridge, cool breeze touching your face softly, looking into the flowing water of Yamuna, you felt like going into nothingness. We have done some of the craziest things there, but drinking beer on naini bridge in one of or nightouts and then watching a movie sitting there was the best one.

Hey, we B2K4, were awesomely awesome at one thing. Saying anything straight from the heart. There was this event in Effervescence known as "Street Play" (nukkad natak), where students were the judges, we could say anything and no one was there to stop us. It gave us the opportunity to speak our heart out. Summarizing all issues, all kands, mimicking professors etc in a 5-7 min play and that too in a way which would entertain everyone was'nt that easy, but we were creative enought to be best at it. First prize in 'nukkad naatak' for three years in a row, how does it sound bro.... Hats off B2K4. :)

We completed our B.Tech that day. It was our last exam of B.Tech. We all were too happy. Finally, we had done it :). We were ready to march into a new world. It was a very different feeling. Many of us, like me, who thought at that time B.Tech. was enough, had theoretically given the last exam of their life(A lot has changed since then, and now i feel post grad is a must). No more one night fights before exams, no more tension n all that. But today after completing one year in professional life, i can say that one day fight was far more exciting and fun than this predictable life we are living now.

Thats what i earned in those most important four years of my life, friends for life. They were always there for me and they still are, it does'nt matter if the physical distances have changed from some hostel rooms to cities or even countries, we all are still close. Close enough to get everything done the same way as we did in hostel, close enough to celebrate together, close enough to share everything together. I wish we could have a reunion ASAP.

Everything comes to an end, so did it. It was my last day in the college. I had spent all night in CC1 and was going back to hostel at 6 in the morning. I still didnt want to leave CC, but i had to pack my stuff to go back home. Going home is always a pleasure, but i dint want to. IIITA had become a home, and my friends were my family. But i had to go, there was no other choice. If i had a choice, yeah i would wanna be there. Those were the best days of my life....

Miss you guys a lot. Miss you B2K4...Miss you IIITA, thats where i belong.
-Myself, B2004051.

Barney Classics.....

Hey, i am a huge "How I Met Your Mother" fan. All the characters in this series are unique, but who i like most is, yeah you are rgt, the one who is legen.....wait for it...dary and whose life is simply awesome, our dear Barney. Here is a collection of the famous barney quotes, i liked most.

You don't know where this concept of Hi5 came from,.... Barney explains here :
Jesus waited THREE days to come back to life. It was perfect! If he had only waited ONE day, a lot of people wouldn't have even heard he died. They'd be all, "Hey Jesus, what up?" and Jesus would probably be like, "What up? I DIED yesterday!" and they'd be all, "Uhh, you look pretty alive to me, dude..." and then Jesus would have to explain how he was resurrected, and how it was a miracle, and the dude'd be like "Uhh okay, whatever you say, bro..." And he's not gonna come back on a SATURDAY. Everybody's busy, doing chores, workin' the loom, trimmin' the beard, NO. He waited the perfect number of days, THREE. Plus it's SUNDAY, so everyone's in church already, and they're all in there like "Oh no, Jesus is DEAD", and then BAM! He bursts in the back door, runnin' up the aisle, everyone's totally psyched, and FYI, that's when he invented the high five. That's why we wait three days to call a woman, because that's how long Jesus wants us to wait.... True story


Here's how Barney defines his life:
Here's the mini-cherry on top of the regular cherry on top of the sundae of awesomeness. That is my life. My life rocks! Money, suits, and sex? These are tears of joy! I could be cooped up in an apartment, changing some brat's poopy diaper but instead I'm out in the world being awesome 24/7/365! You let me dodge a bullet, big guy.

Barney with and interviewer..
Barney: All my life I have dared to go past what is possible.
Interviewer: To the impossible?
Barney: Actually, past that. To the place where the possible and the impossible meet, to become... the possimpible.
Lily: The possimpible? Really?
Barney: Inventing your own word shows creativity and vision—Visitivity



The awesome Barney with his awesome thoughts:
Barney: So I explained to her, I said Madelin, every single international conflict essentially boils down to sexual tension
Ted: Every international conflict?
Barney: Every single one, dude
Ted: So the crisis in the middle east could be solved by?
Barney: Gaza Strippers. Next.
Ted: Apartheid?
Barney: Apart Thighs? What else you got?
Ted: Cold war.
Barney: Ms. Gorbachev, Take Down Those Pants

Barney when he coud'nt find out, why that gal was bothering him....
Barney: Hey! I don't remember you. I've spent the last two days trying to remember every girl that I've slept with and all of the horrible things that I have done to them-- and I have done some horrible things. I mean, at one point I'm pretty sure I sold a woman. I didn't speak the language, but I shook a guy's hands, he gave me the keys to a Mercedes, and I left her there. I am the guy who keeps a scrapbook of all the women I have slept with, but I never thought I was the guy who would sleep with a girl and not even remember her. So, from the bottom of my heart, for whatever I did to you, I apologize

The Evil Barney:
Barney: There are four kinds of women who go to the hardware store by themselves.
Robin: Of course there are.
Barney: Single, recently single, recently divorced, lesbian who will let me watch.
Lily: You can not be more evil.
Barney: Sorry five. Recently widowed.

When he slept with a girl and left her leaving a note saying:
Dear Resident, The time we spent together, however long it was, meant the world to me. I would love to see you again but unfortunately I cannot. You see, I am a ghost. I can only materialize once every decade, on the anniversary of my death. I chose to spend my one day among the living with you, sweet resident. Perhaps we will meet again, in another decade--provided you keep your figure. Until then, all my love from the beyond, Barney.

What's Up????
Barney: For the first time...ever...the three of us are single at the same time. I've dreamed about this day, boys, and it is going to be le...gen...dary! Together we will own this city. Any time a girl wants to get back at her ex-boyfriend, we'll be there. Any time a girl wants to...solve her father issues through promiscuity and binge drinking WE WILL BE there. Any time a bachelorette party drives through the city in a limo, sticking their heads out the sunroof, shouting "WHAT'S UP NEW YORK!!", we will be what is "up" New York! Gentlemen, we are about to embark on...

Dude! We haven't hit legendary yet, we're only at the Le, we still got the Gen, the Da, the Ry.

So more Barney classics will be added to this post..... keep watching... :)

Being in(or out of) Love............

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.” ---- Neil Gaiman

Have you felt the same, guys?? I mean "I hate love" thing. Do you think on the same lines??. Because i dont. Yeah, i agree that you think exactly like this in two conditions:
1. You love someone, but either cant tell her as you are afraid of losing a real good friend or you told her but she doesnt feel the same way about you.
2. You had been in a great relationship, but(aaaah, i hate this but) because of some factors, it didnt work out somehow and now you are left only with the greatest memories of your life. You feel like, you woudnt have been having this pain, had you not fallen in love. You begin to hate love.

But guys, guys, guys........ think again. It was that love which gave you those wonderful days which you would cherish forever. What if you had never fallen in love??? What did you have to compare this time with??? You should feel lucky to have had such a great time. At least you know how does it feel to be in love. Look around you and see how many guys you know who even had this chance. They don't even know what it is like to be "the one" for someone, and that someone is "the one" for you. (Sorry, if you are getting irritated by this "the one" thing, but being extremely influenced by "The Matrix Trilogy", i cant help it).

If you think life was much better when you had not fallen in love, you are wrong. Think about those golden days, you didnt want to ask for anything else, everything was perfect, wasnt it?Being in love is magic. You simply can't hate it, rgt? See, its all depends on you how you perceive it, either you become a Dev-D or believe in "everything happens for a reason, a good reason". Remember, it was some other "you" before you fell in love. Try to rediscover yourself.

Why dont you enjoy those changes she has brought in your life. Not talking about the change which would affect your life in a very significant way, lets take a very small example.One day she gifted you a coffee mug. Now thats just a mug and you would get it anywhere. But this mug is very important for you. You cant share it with anyone at any cost. Whenever a new guy comes in the room, the first thing you tell him is that "hey buddy, that mug belongs to me, dont touch that". And the most surprising thing is that everyone understands this:). Friends usually do exactly what you ask them not to do, because its fun. But in this case, they understand somehow the gravity of situation and they would never do that because they know it might hurt you and they dont want it. So did you see the change ??? How small things can become so important for you. You had never done it before, but doing all these crazy things make you feel different. I hope you are getting me....

So the conclusion,

For Single guys: People say, too know the road ahead, ask those coming back. This does'nt hold true in case of love. Never ask anyone whether you should love or not. No one can tell you. Everyone has their own experiences, every girl is different, circumstances are different and more importantly you are different than the person this question has been asked to. You cannot learn from their experiences. But the thing is, don't try to fall in love, when it has to happen, it will. You will never get to know when you are falling in love, the only time when you begin to feel something different is when you have already fallen.

For guys in love: Here, you need to make very balanced decisions. One wrong move could mess things up. Most of the times, (if it was mutual love), its not the fault of either party. But circumstances and situations play their role and everything screws up. And after some time,
every step that you take is another mistake to her, and every second she waste, is more you could take. And thats exactly where the problem arises. For guys falling in this category, there is only one thing i can think of:
You should definitely make her the best part of her life, and keep making her realize the same, but don't make her your life. I ain't saying she is gonna break your heart, but other factors can, and then my dear friend, your life would be (......i dont have to tell you. You guys are smart enought to get it, rgt?.)

For Guys who just broke up: Stop blaming her of making mistakes which you coud'nt take, and which, according to you, was the root cause of the failure of this relationship. You dont know what she might have been going through. You too might have done some horrible mistakes which you dont even realize but are obvious to her. If she too loved you, it is gonna be as difficult for her as it is for you. No one can figure out what went wrong. But there is something, which is definitely a mistake, you keep asking questions. You know what, i don't know whether you will ever get the answers or not, but one thing is sure that it diminishes the possibility of friendship also.
Dont ask questions. You will not/cannot get the answers to those question. Why did it happen? why did it happen with you?? why did it have to be this way?? Some questions are better unanswered my dear friend. So stop looking for the answers.

Try to be at least a good friend to her, not because you are hoping for a second chance, but for all the great times you had together. I am very sure she will be a very good friend, as she knows you inside out.
"Jis afsane ko anjaam tak pahunchana na ho mumkin, Use ek khoobsoorat mod dekar chood dena accha"

Imagine the day when you two meet after sometime, you will laugh at all those misunderstandings, fights over little things, not talking to each other for ego reasons though you were dying to talk etc, and you will feel like....."haah, those good old days, we two were so good together", and you will feel good. No matter what lies ahead in life, but even as we move on in life, we still remember all the great times we had together.

*Same theory applies to gals also :)
**These are my personal views. Your views might differ. But having a positive attitude towards life always helps.

My Four Quarters OF Life....

Ahhhh, i just finished reading one more post from vanam's blog about our Naini days and it literally took me to those good old days. I too had thought writing about Naini days but now it seems like nothing is left for me to add as bhaiya vanam has already put up all nitty gritty details of our naini life. For all b2k4 guys, vanam's blog is a must read.....

http://arvindvanam.blogspot.com/

I would like to mention one more blog here by kranti....
http://mymonopoly.blogspot.com/2009/03/four-quarters-of-life-hi-friends.html

When i first read this post, i begun to think that of all girls i know, which ones fit into which quarter of my life. Every single line is true and deserves a separate post with case studies. It took me a long time to start blogging, but now, i have a lot more to share and comment on at least three quarters of life. :)

Lets start with my first quarter of life.........
So, People say boys and girls cant be just good friends. Hmmmm , i agree with kranti and contradict this 'fact'. Boys and gals can be very good friends, you can share everything with them, and in fact their help comes in very handy when dealing with second and third quarters of life. Being a girl, they know exactly what the other girl might be thinking, and they guide you in the right direction. Though when you are adolescent, and they are the only girls in your life, you might think that "she is the one", and also try to take that friendship a step further bringing her to the second quarter of life. I am lucky to have some very good girl friends(not girlfriend). Some of these girl friends populated my second quarter life bucket also.

Second quarter of life............
Yeah you are right kranti, this quarter life bucket is indeed wealthiest in terms of quantity. But it also depends on how you define the so called "crush" . In my humble opinion, the gals we want to just have "one night stand" with, dont belong to this category, though we cant forget that face(more precisely figure :) ) ever, in spite of the fact we saw it only once in our life. Coming back to my second quarter, i did have a few crushes. Most of them belong to first quarter also. I feel proud about myself to have told all my crushes what i felt :). None of it worked because of the genuine reasons, and now when i think about those days, all it seems so childish. Luckily, i never lost any friend because of this "crush" thing. I remember reading somewhere:
"The only true love is love at first sight; second sight dispels it." :)

Third quarter of life............
Rightly said, this is the smallest quarter, and it has to be. Once you are in love, and if it doesnt work out, you become paranoid even thinking about it. You can not love again. But if is going smooth, you dont want anything else. Just the feeling of having someone with whom you share everything, who cares a lot about you, who knows everything about you, is great. You never ever want to lose her. Now, i woudnt be very specific about this quarter of my life :). All i have to say for this quarter of life is that there are "N" number of factors, of which, all of them have to be perfectly tuned to work perfectly fine with other factors to have a perfect "love life" . You miss one factor, its over ( or will be over in some time, it gets accumulated).

Fourth quarter of life............
There is time for that :)

Life is beautiful...........

You know, there is a time when everything is great. Everything is happening just as you want it. And i was having exactly that feeling when i came to pune. Lets start with the first day...
I first came from delhi to mumbai , and then i had to catch the bus from mumbai. As soon as i started my journey from mumbai, i got an sms "Hey... Welcome to Pune". This message had come from a very dear friend who had joined in pune few days back. She was here in pune for the first time, and i had stayed here for the last 6 months, so i thought "Wow...now she will welcome me in Pune haaaan......". But it felt good. Now thats the start of a very long story :) .... but for the time being, lets move to other good things..
At that time, i didnt have many friends here except my college friends. As most of my college friends were joining Amdocs, which is on the other side of the city,i knew it is going to be very hard for me to find a room and more importantly "good roommates". The very next day, i asked some of my colleagues before calling any broker, if they knew some place and the first response i got was from Shashank, saying that i can see the room where he used to stay. I went there in the evening with him and i liked the location very much. Thats how the i got the room, the very first day, without any brokerage, without any searching and the best part , which i can definitely say after spending one year, i got the best roommates. I donno how many of you guys are lucky enough to have roommates, who are just as you want them to be.
I had to join the room after 4-5 days. Till then i stayed with hunny and behera, and one of my school friends, Purushottam. Those days were good. Those were our first days in office, and it used to give a different feeling. Till then, we had worked on small projects and now we had to work on product ..haaah.... i thought they would know in few days that they had hired a wrong person.... :) but fortunately i m still working in the same company.
I donno how those days passed, a good day in office, where everyone was helping me to understand the product, and a night with beers.
Anyways, i moved to the new room on 1st august. To my surprise, no one was in the room. I was alone in the room on first day. Next day i met, two great guys.... prashant bhai and aniket bhai. By now, most of my close friends in pune know them.
So that was the time, when everything was so smooth. No problems is life, no worries, only aish. I thought its always gonna be like this and yeah i was partially right. Everything is still the same, just one piece is missing..... . Whatever happens, all i know is that life moves on. Its all in our mind. Life has always been beautiful and will always be if you see it the right way.
Thats all for this post folks....